Day 3: Of variables and constants

Today I paid a man to touch me for the first time. It felt a little weird – undressing and lying down all the while knowing that I am actually paying the man to spend a whole hour with me or rather: with my body. But soon my thoughts drifted of and I enjoyed the pleasant massage Gustav gave me (I almost got you there, right?). This first-time-massage was really necessary since we decided to defy the endless rain and hike anyway – we walked sixteen kilometers up to Hochmaisalm, passing Lettenalm and Reichlalm and finally reached Jausestation Grünegg, where I ordered a giant Schmalzbrot and unfroze my hands. It was nice, but I really could use a rain-free day with a little bit of sun. I don’t need thirty degrees – but having to wear a winter jacket and not being able to feel ones fingers anymore is not what I expected at the end of July.

The bright side: I got to know two very nice couples with whom I spent a very nice afternoon with coffee and cake and interesting discussions. Both couples have been married for plenty of time, couple number one for thirty-one years and couple number two for staggering fifty years. It amazed me how happy they still were – they teased each other all the while treating their partner very respectfully. You could sense that they were proud to be together this long – and I agree with them completely.

Having a look at the number of divorces and all the people leading unhappy relationships it seems like a miracle to me if two people survive half a century together without wearing each other out.

But is this kind of life-long relationship really realistic in today’s fast-paced world? We change our job every few years, we move to different cities, we try out various ways of living – we have come to terms with multiple variables in our life and this is something that can only be good, in my opinion. The ideal would be, of course, a partner that moves and bends and grows with us as we change. Somebody who respects our need to change and has a desire to change as well. But I accept that a relationship like this is hard to find – in a society where self-realization is the most important goal most people are not willing to take compromises, although relationships always require comprises. Sometimes small ones, sometimes bigger ones – and that is okay. Good things in life rarely come for free.

Lesson learnt today: Change is good – and even better if you have constants that walk the way with you. 

Published by thingsioverthought

I live in Offenbach and I love writing, reading, travelling, exploring new locations, hiking, eating, cooking, baking, Zumba, software development (weird, right?), analyzing people, romatic comedies (of course), the English language, trying out new stuff and vintage furniture.

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